BEING
A MUSLIM’S WIFE
by
Abdullah Al Araby
He is asking for your hand in marriage, and
you have fallen in love with his bronze Middle Eastern complexion.
He is intelligent, rich, well-educated and well-mannered. So,
what more can a woman ask for? THIS MOST
ELIGIBLE BACHELOR IS ALSO A MUSLIM!
"There will be no problems", he will
say, "you can keep your religion. I will keep mine."
And while it is true that Islam allows a Muslim man to marry a Christian,
is it true that there will be no problems in such a marriage?
To answer this question, a woman has
to examine what is like to be a Muslim’s wife.
All quotes used in this article are
from the Muslim’s sacred books of the Quran (believed by Muslims to be
Allah’s words) translated by the Abdullah Yusuf Ali, and the Hadith (Mohammed’s
words and deeds) as recorded by Al Bukhary.
YOUR
STATUS
-
Islam teaches that men
are superior to women. "...And women shall have rights
similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but
men have a degree (superiority) over them." (Surah 2:228)
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Islam teaches that women
have half the rights of men...
a) In court witness
(Surah 2:282)
b) In inheritance
(Surah 4:11)
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Islam considers the wife
a possession. "Fair in the eyes of men is the love of
things they covet: women and sons, heaped-up hordes of gold and silver;
horses..." (Surah 3:14)
-
Islam teaches that women
are unclean. If a Muslim man touches a woman (even his
wife) before praying, he is considered unclean for prayer.
(Surah 4:43)
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Islam instructs women
to veil themselves always when they are outside their homes.
"...And say to the believing women...that they should draw veils over their
bosoms and not display their beauty." (Surah 24:31)
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Mohammed teaches that
women are lacking in mind and religion. "I have not
seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than women."
(Al Bukhary Vol. 2:541)
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Mohammed teaches that
women are a bad omen. "Bad omen is in the women, the
house and the horse." (Al Bukhary Vol. 7:30)
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Mohammed teaches that
women are harmful to men. "After me I have not left
any affliction more harmful to men than women." (Al Bukhary
Vol. 7:33)
YOUR
MARRIAGE
-
Islam allows polygamy.
A man may marry up to four wives at one time. "Marry women
of your choice, two, or three, or four." (Surah 4:3)
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Islam allows a man to
divorce his wife by oral announcement, the wife has no such right.
"...divorce is permissible twice." (Surah 2:229)
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When a husband has pronounced
divorce three times on his wife, she then may not lawfully remarry her
husband until she has married and been divorced by another man (including
having sexual intercourse with him). "...So if a husband
divorces his wife he cannot after that, remarry her until after she has
married another husband, and he has divorced her." (Surah 2:230)
-
Islam teaches that a wife
is subject to punishment by her husband, beating a wife or abstaining
from sexual relations with her is allowed. "As to those women
on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them, refuse
to share their beds, beat them..." (Surah 4:34)
YOUR
SEX LIFE
-
Islam considers the wife
a sex object. "...your wives are as a tilth (a field
to be ploughed) unto you, so approach your tilth when or how ye will."
(Surah 2:223)
-
Unnatural sex is allowed.
"Narrated Jabir: Jews used to say; if one has sexual intercourse
with his wife from the back, then she will deliver a squint-eyed child.
So this verse was revealed: ‘your wives are a tilth unto you, so
approach your tilth when and how ye will" (whether in a natural or unnatural
way). (Al Bukhary Vol. 6:51)
YOUR
CHILDREN
Your children
have to be raised according to their Muslim father’s religion: Islam.
If he divorces you, he gets custody of the children and you wouldn’t be
able to see your children again. There is no such thing a visitation
rights in Islam.
The Sharia (Islamic Law) states that
in mixed marriages "the children will follow the better of the two religions
of their parents", which in your case is Islam. The Quran states
that Islam is the only true religion. "The religion before God is Islam."
(Surah 3:19) Non-Muslims can not act as protectors to Muslims.
"O, ye who believe; take not for friends (protectors) unbelievers rather
than believers." (Surah 4:144)
YOUR
FUTURE
Should you survive
your Muslim husband, and his wealth is in an Islamic country, the Islamic
law will apply. The wife who has not converted to Islam gets
nothing, the wife who has converted to Islam gets very little. According
to the Quran a wife does not inherit all her husband’s wealth. If
the husband dies and he leaves no children, she gets a fourth of his wealth,
his parents, brothers, uncles...etc. will get the rest. If the deceased
husband leaves children, then the wife gets an eighth, the children get
the rest; the male child gets double the portion of the female. "In what
ye leave, their (wives) share is a fourth if you leave no children; but
if you leave a child, they (wives) get an eighth; after payment of legacies
and debts." (Surah 4:12)
BEFORE
YOU SAY "I DO"
Before you commit
yourself to marry a Muslim, it is a good idea to examine the motives behind
it. While your motive may be love, his motive could be just to obtain
a "Green Card". Even if this is not his motive, marrying a Muslim
is asking for trouble.
I know they say that "love is blind",
I hope however that this message will serve as eye-opener for you.
You may say that your husband-to-be
is a non-practicing Muslim. But let’s not forget that Islam is more
than a religion; it includes a complete legal code for Muslims and non-Muslims
to follow in an Islamic State. In case of a dispute between you and him,
all he needs to do to get the upper hand over you is to travel to an Islamic
country.
If you are in doubt about this, may
I suggest that you see the movie, "Not without my daughter" which is based
on a true life story of an American woman who married a Muslim man.
This may be a life-saving experience. The lives you will save
are your own, and those of your future children.
"Be ye not
unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness
with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?"
2 Corinthians
6:14
KNOW THE TRUTH
FOLLOW THE TRUTH
SPREAD THE TRUTH
"And you shall
know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." (John
8:32)